In the paragraphs bellow I will mostly speak about fasting, body transformations and diets in general, but you can apply my words to almost any of your goals.
The idea of the article is to give you my take on the subject and reveal the other side of the spectrum. I decided to write it, not because I believe other people’s opinions are wrong, but because I want to inspire you seeing things from one different and more hidden perspective. Perspective many people neglect and tend to avoid talking about.
So, should you tell your acquaintances you eat one meal per day? Should you tell them if you decide to make any dietary or other lifestyle adjustment? Should you let them know about your aspirations and goals? Should you inform them about a specific thing you passionately want to pursue?
The answer to all of them and many others is: Absolutely no.
Most of the people are skeptical. A lot of them will try to convince you, that what you do is wrong and you shouldn’t do it. They will criticize and make all sorts of efforts to discourage you in many different ways. That includes making fun of you in person and/or in front of other people.
But have you ever wondered what is the real reason for all of that criticism? What truly makes those people have the mentality and reactions they have? Well, it depends, but honestly I believe they are two main scenarios with two groups or types of people. People around probably include individuals from both groups.
Scenario A
A lot of times people simply do not understand your goal. They do not have desire and motivation you do. They don’t want the things you want and because of that, they don’t value them the way you do. That is perfectly fine. In the end of the day we are all different.
To many of them being passionate and excited about specific thing often seems weird and unusual. More or less ignorant, the way they act is often triggered by misunderstanding and lack of information.
Even though they aren’t supportive, those might be people who truly care about you like family members and friends. Scared about the “new” and “unknown’’ they believe their response would be the way of protecting you from the things they determine as “bad” or “evil”. Trust me that type of intentions are nothing more than naive and harmless, but you really don’t want to deal with them.
When it comes to accomplish anything in life, you want to go straight to the point, achieve it and then move to the next one. You do not need someone convincing you that it is right or wrong. It’s your goal, so go for it. Informing others will not get you closer to the thing you want. Actually is the quite opposite.
You don’t want to deal with any additional amounts of artificially created resistance and doubt, even if they come from people who pretend to love you and be your friends. You do not want to waste time and energy talking that talk. What you want is to do things accordingly to your plan. Whatever it is.
That’s the scenario most of the fasting bloggers and writers describe. Now lets dig a little deeper, so we can at least for a moment observe things from the different perspective. The one I’ve mentioned.
Scenario B
That’s the situation where some of your acquaintances will do almost unbearable efforts to put tremendous amounts of doubt on the whole possibility of you succeeding.
It really does not matter if we talk about, loosing weight, applying a fasting protocol or whatever your goal might be. They will try to do everything they possibly can in order, to sap your energy, desire and motivation. That can only happen through pointless arguing and conversations. Once they found about your plans they will continue with their attempts to sabotage you.
They will do it because they desperately believe that’s the way of making you quit and quite often that’s their exact goal.
But what is the difference between them and the people from the first group? Why would a well known person or even a friend of yours act in the manner I described and if he or she does, what would be the reason behind that attitude?
In the end of any journey, more or less you will become better version of yourself. It really does not matter if we talk about, weight loss, muscle building or mastering a new skill. After achieving your goal you’ll gain confidence. You will feel and become capable of doing some other things as well and that will elevate your whole persona on a new higher level.
It will reveal bigger part of the picture and you will start seeing things a bit differently. You’ll start valuing your self and time more and ultimately you’ll up your standards.
That whole process will not happen for a day or two, but eventually it will. The people from the second group are scared that if they stay on their current level, you will no longer want to spend time with them.
Guess what. That’s exactly what typically happens.
You will no longer need them as part of your life, so you won’t be available for them. That will make them feel bad about themselves and there are two main reasons for it.
The first is the fact you move towards your goals and they don’t. The second is that they will loose you. Both will trigger unpleasant feelings and deep in their souls, they will most likely envy or even hate you. So, they will want to stop you.
Make no mistake. It is not because they do not understand, it’s because they do not want you to succeed in anything in order to keep you available for them.
Keeping you and others on their level make them feel good about themselves and that is why they will try to make you doubt about your success.
But as I’ve mentioned that can only happen through stupid fights and pointless conversations which are not possible if you keep your mouth shut. So be wise and move in silence.
Be invisible and if you can’t avoid them let them do the majority of the talk. Observe carefully and do not neglect importance of staying aware of your surroundings.
I know it probably sounds cruel, but that’s the harsh reality and often many of us are too blind to see the horrible intentions of our acquaintances and friends.
In fact it took me fairly long time to understand it, but once I did, I became extremely grateful. I truly believe the gained experience is priceless.
The idea of the written is not to scare you, but to keep well informed that probably even now some of the people around you don’t want you get on the next level.
If you are obese, they want you stay obese.
(To eventually make fun of you, in order to make them feel good about themselves, because of their potential inferiority complexes).
If you are weak they don’t want you get stronger. If you want to improve any other aspect of your life, they do not want to let that happen. If you’re sure that’s not true, then fine I believe you. But do you believe yourself ? Think about it. For your own good, I highly recommend you to keep everything I said in mind.
Nothing has the ability to discourage you more than the doubt. As many famous quotes say not the failure, but the doubt is what kills the dreams. The people I am talking about know it and they will try to use it against you.
Do not look on it as good or bad. Take it as part of our life. Just a way minds of many people operate. Once you embrace that as a fact, everything will become easier.
You will no longer need to spend your time and energy on the pointless attempts to convince someone something. You will invest them to make progress in the desired directions.
You don’t owe anything to anyone and you do not have to share any personal information with them. Your dietary and lifestyle adjustments are all about you. You will take the action, so you will reap the benefits.
In fact, if you really have the desire of sharing something with someone, you can do it by using the internet. In the amazing era we live in everything is possible.
You are no longer limited to your local area nor surroundings. Today you can start a blog youtube, channel and you can also post on Instagram. As long as you are consistent, your message will reach the right people.
World is full of individuals who have the same aspirations and goals such as yours. Some will be interested to hear about your experiences. Sharing that information might be helpful for both sides.
Because they have the same grind, they will understand you and actually be supportive. In the end of the day they are on the same path such as you.
I hope that makes sense.
Yours truly:
Peteonthebeat
